Chasing Down the Root of Unworthiness

Chasing Down the Root of Unworthiness

It seems that there is almost a universal message: As human beings, we share common ground when it comes to feelings of unworthiness and not being deserving of genuine joy and happiness. For me, the theme has become so common and widespread that whenever I witness suffering – whether of my own making or another’s – I automatically tend to wonder: Is the root pain simply a lack of worth? Is the suffering an old and familiar acquaintance dressed as Mara who beckons us to question our value? The answer is usually yes! In nature, a seed is planted, roots …

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Breaking Free of the Tyranny of Blame

Breaking Free of the Tyranny of Blame

Blame is a sensitive issue for me. Not because I tend to blame others for my way of being and feeling. Judging others is not my strong suit. Judging myself on the other hand, I excel at that! The painful reality is that in the long run, there is very little difference between judging ourselves verses another. Whether we externalize or internalize blame, at the core is the same issue: feelings of inadequacy and lack of worth. Feelings that are born from questioning our value. For a very long time, I held onto a fantasy. I thought that if I …

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Fear and Mindless Choices

Fear and Mindless Choices

A while ago I had a dream. In it, I was talking to someone about whether he wanted to make fear based choices. Then, I said how that can be tricky because most – maybe even 90% – of our fears are unconscious. I’ve been pondering this off an on since the dream. Maybe it’s because I rarely have dreams like that, so when I remember a meaningful one, I try to pay attention. Life presents us with ongoing opportunities. Often, we are aware that we need to make a choice. Part of the process of making conscious choices involves …

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